I woke up a few days ago ready to wage war with anyone and everyone. It is more than just an irritation or annoyance, it is a visceral, bubbling rage that, if I am honest, scares me a little. It feels like a fire in my belly that just can’t escape. It just arrives suddenly, no warning, one minute you are just so angry, you can’t sit still. This my friends, is yet another symptom of perimenopause. Yeah, it’s a real thing, and you’re not alone in experiencing it.
First off, what’s the deal with perimenopause?
Perimenopause is like the opening act before the main event of menopause. It’s when your ovaries start producing less estrogen, usually kicking off in your mid-40s. This hormonal rollercoaster can last anywhere from a few months to several years. Once you’ve gone a full year without a period, congratulations! You’ve officially hit menopause. I have been in perimenopause for years (and years).
So, why the rage?
Here’s the scoop: estrogen isn’t just about reproductive health. It’s also besties with serotonin, our mood-boosting brain chemical. When estrogen levels drop, it’s like your brain’s happy juice supply gets disrupted. The result? Hello, mood swings and irritability! Reminder to read this book!
But it’s not just hormones playing havoc. Think about it – you’re dealing with night sweats, insomnia, hot flashes, and a slowing metabolism. It’s like your body’s throwing a tantrum, and your mood is caught in the crossfire. Add in life stressors like teenage kids or aging parents, and it’s a perfect storm for some serious anger issues.
How to spot menopause rage:
- You go from zero to furious in seconds flat
- Your patience has left the building
- Family and friends are walking on eggshells around you
- You’re experiencing other symptoms like irregular periods, sleep issues, or vaginal dryness
What can you do about it?
- Accept it: Don’t beat yourself up. This is a normal part of the menopause journey.
- Track your triggers: Keep a journal or use an app to spot patterns in your mood swings.
- Take a breather: When you feel the rage building, step back and ask yourself, “Is this situation really rage-worthy?”
- Get moving: Exercise is like a natural mood booster. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate activity per week. This does definitely help, I was feeling particularly rageful so took the dog for a walk and I did feel somewhat calmer than I did before I left.
- Watch what you eat and drink: Load up on fruits, veggies, and foods rich in plant estrogens (like soy). And stay hydrated! Dehydration can make mood swings worse.
- Prioritize sleep: Create a bedtime routine and tackle those night sweats with cooling pillows or moisture-wicking pajamas.
- Cut back on caffeine and quit smoking: Both can make menopause symptoms worse.
- Try mindfulness: Meditation, yoga, or even a simple nature walk can help ground you.
- Hang with your girls: Sometimes you just need to vent to people who get it.
- Consider hormone therapy: Talk to your doctor about whether estrogen replacement might be right for you.
Remember, menopause rage isn’t your fault, and you’re not going crazy. It’s a combination of hormonal changes and life circumstances. Be kind to yourself, try out these tips, and if you are feeling very unhinged, get some help from your healthcare provider.
You’ve got this, and this too shall pass!
